Frances Bean Knows everything

September 24, 2009

American Mom

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , , , , , — Frances Locke @ 8:11 PM

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I was reading these two articles from greymatteronline.net and Babble.com about whether or not motherhood should be considered the hardest job in the world. Babble’s Meagan Francis makes some great points, and I agree with greymatter’s blogger Angela that motherhood is more than “the sum of all its parts”. But what struck me were all the negative comments on Francis’s post.

Basically a bunch of upper middle class (most likely white) mommies bitching and moaning about how hard their “jobs” are. I have children of my own. I’ve done the stay at home thing, the working out of home thing and the work from home thing, and I’m the first to say none of those options are particularly easy. But the hardest job in the world? Really?

Francis mentions her first job, detassling corn in Michigan when she was thirteen. I did the same crappy job when I was twelve and thirteen, and the thought of doing that for the rest of my life makes me shudder. People who do that for a living do it because they have to, not because they want to. You choose to be a parent. And compared to waitressing for eight hours or more a day, doing construction, or grave digging, it’s a pretty enjoyable vocation.

What our grandmothers and great grandmothers did was hard work. Try making every meal from scratch (because you have to, not because you fancy yourself a gourmet). Try washing your clothes by hand, or dealing without modern conveniences like microwaves, refrigerators and pre-packaged foods. Hell, most of these women don’t even know what it’s like to drag their laundry three blocks to the laundry mat because they have no car. Parents in third world countries and Dickens novels have it hard; American middle class mommies and daddies? Not so much

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